So I've heard about how there's this spark when you first talk to someone and you know they are the one. For some people, its how they have common interests, maybe the same kind of movies or sport, or just their view about life.
For others, it may be how well they get along, have fun, and really connect..you know?
How about I give you guys a totally different outlook? I have been dating this guy for 3 years now. The first time we met was in high school, through a friend. He was the science geek and I was this really hyper kid who belonged to the 'cool people' group. A mis-match. When we first said hello, It was nothing more than a handshake and a hello and a "sure, whatever" in our head.
I never met him after that until one day when I was really bored out of my mind and I had started to search for random school people on facebook. I saw his profile [Let's call him Slog, which by the way is actually his nickname=P] and I asked myself, "What the hell?" and I added him.
Next thing I know is we are chatting with each other on msn all through the night. I still hated him. For his totally absurd view of life, and the fact that you know, I thought he was a geek.
But god alone knows, we met up. Just like that. We met up and we fought all through our 'hangout' together. As he told me more about himself, I realized how totally different he was. Like no seriously, very, very different. His obsession with manchester united, his long hair, his taste of music, his choice of clothing brands, his idea of a summer holiday, and did i mention his totally absurd view of life?
Slog plans for every single moment in his life. He has a schedule made for even, say, drinking a glass of water..and me, I don't even know where my life is going or what I want to do after college.
But yet after totally despising each other for a few weeks [there's NO secret feelings involved] we became friends. And then one night we sat under the stars, and while he bored me with the names of different constellations, he held my hand and said the sweetest thing ever.
"You annoy the crap out of me, and yet I can't get enough of you. I can't seem to get along with you, but I can't seem to go along without you, too. I hate you but I'm so totally in love with you."
And that's it. He didn't have to say anything anymore. I knew it was totally weird to date someone who is completely different from you. Someone who does all of the things you hate. He smokes, he listens to heavy metal, he wants to go to Addis Ababa for holiday. I can never get along with him, even after all these years. We talk over the phone and we always have nothing to talk.
But that's the beauty of our relationship. We will stay over the phone for an hour without talking, because anything we say will ruin it. It's amazing, how you just KNOW, that you love them. That li'l something in them, that makes you believe that this is meant to be. That feeling of contentment when you hug them and it makes you realize that at the end of the day its just the heart that matters.
Couples who have worldly fights just need to know how to make it work. My story might seem really superficial but it doesn't matter. The only thing I know that ever matters is having someone love you so much and loving them back despite having a truckload of reasons to hate them.
Any one else have a similar story like me? Do leave a comment!
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